There's a Kind of Hush

In the depths of January here on Cape Cod, gardens take on a different guise. Gone are the vibrant hues of blooming hydrangeas and the verdant greenery of our pine-oak forests. What remains when the earth lies still beneath a blanket of frost is a landscape stripped bare, seemingly devoid of life. Yet, if we look closer, we can uncover a profound metaphor hidden within the hush of the winter garden—one that speaks to the rest and rejuvenation we all crave.

The notion of rest can feel foreign, even counterintuitive, in a world that often glorifies constant productivity and perpetual motion. As the garden surrenders to the rhythm of the seasons, let’s learn to honor the natural rhythm of our life, allowing ourselves to pause and recharge amidst the hustle and bustle of daily living. Winter teaches us that periods of dormancy are not only necessary but essential for growth.

Think about it: beneath the frozen earth, roots lie dormant, conserving energy and preparing for the eventual resurgence of spring. Similarly, in our own lives, moments of stillness allow us the chance to replenish our energy and ponder our journey. It is during these times of repose that we have the opportunity to reflect, recalibrate, and reconnect with ourselves on a deeper level.

A winter garden invites us to cultivate this sense of mindfulness and presence. When we feel pulled in so many different directions, the stillness of winter offers a rare opportunity to simply be—to savor the beauty of the moment without the distraction of constant busyness. By immersing ourselves in the sights, sounds, and sensations of the winter garden, we can awaken to the inherent richness of the present moment, finding solace and serenity amidst the routines of hectic schedules.

So as you embrace the peacefulness of winter, remember the wisdom of the garden. Nurture your inner landscape, allowing space for renewal, reflection, and ultimately, the blossoming of your whole, true self. For in the stillness of winter, we find the seeds of our greatest potential, waiting patiently to be awakened.

Winter Solstice is December 21, 2023

As the winter solstice approaches here in the northern hemisphere, the sun hangs low on the horizon casting long shadows across the frost-kissed earth as the air becomes crisper, and a sense of quiet descends. This is a time of transition—a turning point where the long, dark nights of fall will give way to extended days, and the promise of renewal beckons as we tilt back towards the sun.

Why does this celestial moment hold such importance beyond its astronomical implications? It's an ancient practice to pause and reflect on the cyclical nature of existence. The winter solstice marks the longest night of the year, a time when darkness reigns supreme. Within this darkness we are invited to explore the depths of our own psyche, to confront our fears and insecurities, and to emerge renewed and transformed on the other side. It's a journey of self-discovery and healing, as we learn to embrace the full spectrum of our human experience, both light and shadow alike.

But the winter solstice is not just a time for inner reflection—it's also an opportunity to reconnect with the natural world. Nature therapy, also known as ecotherapy or green therapy, recognizes the inherent healing potential of spending time in nature. Research has shown that spending time outdoors can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, while improving mood, cognitive function, and overall psychological resilience.

Outdoor mindfulness practices, such as meditation, yoga, or tai chi, combine the benefits of mindfulness with the restorative effects of nature. Practicing mindfulness in natural settings encourages present-moment awareness, relaxation, and a deeper connection with the environment. Simply spending time outdoors in natural environments, such as forests, parks, or mountains, can have therapeutic benefits. Walking or hiking amidst nature allows us to connect with our surroundings, engage our senses, and experience the restorative effects of being outside. It is key to prioritize regular contact with nature and incorporate outdoor activities into our daily routine.

As we stand on the threshold of the winter solstice, let us embrace the wisdom of Mother Nature and heed her call to reconnect with the earth and ourselves. Let us honor the cycles of nature and the rhythms of our own hearts, knowing that in darkness, there is also the promise of light.

Cracking the Geode

Recently, a client thanked me at the end of our session for following her many threads of thought during our conversation. My training as a coach allows me to hold space for many ideas while a client explores various possibilities. She likened my coaching as walking around a very large rock. Together, we explored a metaphor of her seeing the large rock as an obstacle in her way and her search for a path over or around it; and me seeing her obstacle as a geode and finding a crack to break it open to reveal a beautiful sparkly interior.

As we concluded her session, I was flooded with a childhood memory of my grandfather’s large amethyst geode. Growing up in Ontario, Canada, I was lucky to see many amethyst geodes and other cool crystals at local fairs and artisan studios. Amethyst is the official gemstone of the province. Many cultures regard amethyst as a stone of peace and believe that wearing amethyst calms and soothes us. One of my favorite necklace charms is a simple goddess shape inset with an amethyst and was gifted to me by a friend for my college graduation.

I started my virtual coaching practice as a way to help others lean into opportunity. By actively supporting you, using applied positive psychology techniques, I help you peek inside yourself and unlock the power of your shiny potential. I don’t judge and I don’t give advice. I follow your lead and together we create a way forward for you to create the life that you want.

Where do you want to be? What’s getting in your way? How can I help you reveal your best self?